The Catholic Church teaches that death is not an end of life but a change. In the burial of a Christian, family and friends celebrate the faith of a deceased person and Christ’s victory over death and suffering. Christian burial is a time for family and friends to console each other with the healing words of Christ and the liturgy of the Church.
Planning the Funeral Liturgy and Burial
When someone dies, please contact the parish office to make arrangements. Someone from the parish staff will want to meet personally with the family to prepare the liturgy, including your choices for music and readings. Our parish priests generally preside at all funerals here.
Two Locations – The Mass of Christian Burial, as the funeral liturgy is called, may be celebrated at either our larger north church, or our historic south church. Be aware that the south church has fewer modern amenities.
Three Types of Catholic Funerals –
1.The Mass of Christian Burial is the preferred option for faithful, practicing Catholics. Holy Communion is given.
2.The Funeral Liturgy Outside of Mass is preferred if there will be many non-Catholics present, or if the family desires a more generic service. This option for a funeral can be led by a priest or lay minister.
3.A funeral service at the funeral home is the shortest of all, and may be chosen if the deceased is not Catholic, or was alienated from their faith, or if the family, for any reason, would feel uncomfortable in church. Our priests will happily discuss these options with you.
Time of the Mass – The Funeral Mass can be celebrated in the morning, afternoon or evening, not later than 6:00 p.m. Our staff will confer with the family or the funeral home to set the time of the Mass.
Burial – The burial at the cemetery is called the Rite of Committal, and is often led by a lay minister from our staff.
Luncheon – Depending upon the availability of our parish hall, the Women’s Guild Funeral Ministry, from SFB, can host a luncheon after Mass. They prepare, serve and clean up the luncheon and donate the desserts and beverages (non-alcoholic) as well as some other items. The family is charged for meat, rolls and additional food. Since we only have one hall, and it is used by many parish groups, the hall may not be available when you would like.
Frequently Asked Questions About Funeral Liturgies and Christian Burial
Is a vigil service necessary?
A vigil service is customary on the night before a morning funeral, but it is not absolutely necessary.
Can Catholics be cremated?
Yes. The prohibition against cremation no longer exists, since cremation no longer symbolizes a denial of bodily resurrection. In many cases, cremation may be the most affordable type of burial. Ordinarily a funeral liturgy will be celebrated with the body present before cremation. In the event that the body cannot be present, a Memorial Mass for the deceased may be celebrated with the family.
Can Catholics donate all or parts of their body to medical science?
Yes. Donor cards can be obtained from any hospital. Ordinarily a funeral liturgy will be celebrated with the body present before donation of the body to medical science. In the event that the body cannot be present, a Memorial Mass for the deceased may be celebrated with the family.
Must the coffin be open during the visitation?
The coffin may be in state opened or closed. While the decision is totally up to the relatives, please remember that many who are grieving need to “see” the deceased in order to bring a sense of closure. This can be especially important when the death was sudden. If there was a prolonged period of suffering before death, and the family determines the casket should be closed, a photograph of the deceased may be displayed.
Can Catholics be buried in a non-Catholic cemetery?
Can non-Catholics be buried in a family plot in a Catholic cemetery?
How much money should be spent on Christian burial?
From a Christian point of view, excessive amounts of money need not be spent on the dead. Christian faith is in the resurrected body. What money is saved may be given to the poor and others in need, or used for works of charity.
Are there any restrictions on when a funeral liturgy can be held?
The Mass of Christian Burial may be celebrated on all days except Sundays, Holy Days and the last three days of Holy Week (the Paschal Triduum). This is stated in the Guidelines for Christian Burial issued for the Archdiocese of Milwaukee (2/15/79) and based on the general liturgical law of the Church.
Does the funeral liturgy need to be a Mass with Communion?
When a Catholic dies and the remaining members of the family belong to another denomination, the Catholic funeral liturgy may be celebrated without Mass and Communion. This form of the funeral liturgy may be most fitting in circumstances where very few of the relatives and friends of the deceased are active in the Catholic community.
Is it better for people to send flowers or donations?
Flowers may be sent to share grief. In place of flowers, it is suggested that donations be made to the poor, to charities or to medical research.
The Catholic Cemetery serves as a symbol of the extended community of believers, a community unbroken by death. It stands as a reminder of the need to prepare throughout our lives here on earth for that life which is to come and which will be lived with God forever.
The St. Francis Borgia Parish Cemetery is located in Mequon, Wisconsin, on Pioneer Road (Hwy C), one-quarter mile west of Wauwatosa Road.
We have space available for both above-ground inurnments in our columbarium and traditional ground burials.
If you have any questions about our parish cemetery, please contact the Cemetery Coordinator.